Meeting someone new is definitely exciting and fun. But if you dont know anything about the person you met online, your blind date can quickly turn into a dangerous nightmare. In our safety tips guide, we explained you should always run at least a basic background check of the person you are about to meet on a date.

Thanks to technology and the internet, you don’t have to hire a private investigator to find out if someone has been naughty. There are a many services out there — some free, some paid — which allows you to find what someone might be hiding under the rug.

But before you start spending money on comprehensive background checks, you can try to find dirt on the internet for free. To start, Google is your best bet. Visit the search engine and type your prospective date’s name. If the person has a very common name, try adding the city and/or state where the person resides. Swift through the results trying to find any news items with negative information such as an arrest, a fraud, or a legal proceeding.

So you Didnt Find Any Dirt on Google?

Phew! Your potential lover has not been on the news lately. Ask him to become your friend on Facebook. You can deduce things about a person by looking at their photographs that not even the most comprehensive criminal database can tell you. Read through his profile and take a look at his friends. Most people have Facebook nowadays, if he doesnt have Facebook, at least ask him to text you some pictures. Does it look like a well rounded person. Can you spot any psycho-like signals ?

He Passed the Facebook Test? Great.

Looks like your friend might have a good reputation online after all. Now make sure his name is not in the sex offender database. Every state has a free sex offender search service. A fast google search will likely turn it up for you. For example, to find the sex offender search website for Florida, google “Sex Offender Search Florida”. You can also do the same but with a city name. Alternatively, you can visit City-Data’s sex offender page.

So He Is Not A Sex Offender? Looks Like It Might Be A Match!

Finally, since you haven’t find any negative using free tools, consider paying for a basic background check. Websites such as InstantCheckmate and Intelius charge a different fee depending on how comprehensive you want the background search want to be. These are the kind of services big corporations use when hiring new staff employees. The difference between free tools and commercial grade solutions is that the latter connect to proprietary databases with sensitive information including criminal records, bankruptcy fillings, marriage records, court judgements and sex offenses which are not always publicly accessible

Everything Check Out A-OK!

Although doing some basic online research and running a quick background check will uncover most of a person serious dirt, there is no service that is completely reliable that will keep you safe. If a person hasn’t been caught doing something wrong, then no website or database will help! Always let someone else know where you will be.

Always use your common sense and you will never go on a date blind. Remember, don’t ever agree to meet someone you met online or on the phone without first doing some research. It could literally save your life.

The vast majority of adult movies, magazines and phone sex lines all target the male population, with the women left to seek other options. Go ahead and do a Google search on phone sex lines that exclusively cater to women. The results are disappointing to say the least. Some might be tempted to think that the reason phone sex lines for women do not exist is simply because women are not into sex. This could not be farther from the truth.

In a world where the sexual experience is defined primarily from a male point of view, understanding sex from a woman’s perspective can be tricky. This is why we find that more often than not, women’s slight aversion towards sex is chalked down as lack of interest. What is even sadder is that it is frowned upon when a member of the fairer sex expresses their sexual desires. This is why it exists as an unspoken rule that sex is a man’s game and with these ideas firmly planted in our minds. It is therefore not surprising that most of the existing phone sex lines are orientated towards the male population.

Men have dominated the world of sex with women being forced to take a lower pedestal when it comes to their sexual needs being met. This trend probably stemmed from the era where women were objectified and although we have reached the age of gender equality, we still have a lot of catching up to do when it comes to matters concerning sex. Take a moment and reflect about how many sex-related products have been tailored to suit the needs of men.

What are the available alternatives?

In light of this situation, women are left with a few half-baked solutions to a problem that not many see as a problem. One of the things a woman may resort to is calling a gay sex hotline. As you might have guessed, gay sex hotlines are specifically for gay men, and as expected, they do not do much to address the situation for women. Alternatively, women might opt to call regular phone sex lines and ask for a female phone sex operator. This might be effective to some extent, until you realize that this will not do much for straight women. Women would like to hear a man on the other end of the line. Even better, a phone sex line for women will have men who know exactly what the woman wants to hear.

Sites like Craigslist are not the safest. Picking up a phone sex date from this site will require you to expose your phone number to strangers unless you cover it up with a third-party application. This sounds like a hassle considering that getting what you want from Craigslist as a woman might be very much a needle in the haystack experience.

You might reason out that there are chatlines such as Redhot and Livelinks where men are in abundance, looking for phone sex partners to chat with. Problem solved? Not really. Regardless of the availability of men, not many of them have the skills and patience necessary to really get a woman turned on. There is a huge difference between what women want and what men think women want. This is mainly due to the emotional aspect to the sexual needs of women that most men just don’t understand.

Men and women could not be more different when it comes to sex, which is funny considering that it is how most of us got here in the first place. Women are not as easily turned on as men are. In order to get aroused, a combination of intellectual and emotional stimulation is needed. Foreplay for women might last for days as it not only entails physical contact but also small actions that trigger their sexual urges. The key is patience and knowing all the right moves to make because sex for women is not all about the act itself. More often than not, it is the buildup that counts. This is more than can be said for men, being the visual beings we are, as we get turned on just by seeing a little bit of skin or hearing a vivid enough description.

So no matter how many phone sex chat lines exist with men rearing to unleash their verbal skills on women, there is always a chance that it might not be very effective. Not many phone sex options are left for women.

Expect More Lines In The Near Future

Despite the slow start, we can expect to see this pick up in the near future. As with almost every social aspect, women are becoming more confident and able to voice their sexuality without fear. Gone are the days when nasty names would be hurled about when a woman displayed even the slightest interest towards sex. It is only a matter of time before the world catches on and phone sex lines for women start to spring up all over.

There is certainly a large enough market for it, the biggest percentage being women who are unable to be in a relationship. This might be for a number of valid reasons, such as professionally committed women who cannot find the time to be sexually involved with a man, women who are too insecure about their bodies to engage in a physical relationship and women who are sexually frustrated with their current relationship.

Having a professional male phone sex operator who knows exactly how to get these women emotionally and sexually satisfied would be an instant hit because, let’s face it, there is not much of this happening at the moment. It defeats all purpose to have male strippers for the female clients but not a single phone sex line for women.

Many people like to complain about unauthorized charges to their credit cards. However, if you’re covering the fact that you’ve been calling a chatline to someone and the charges are legitimate, you have to be careful: chatline companies record your voice when you are buying a subscription.

Here is what usually happens between couples that dispute these charges:

The wife sees a unknown charge on their shared credit card statement and calls the bank. The bank explain the charge comes from a chatline company. When the wife ask the husband if he’s been calling a dating chatline, the husband denies it to safe face, swearing to her he didn’t call.

She believes him and calls the chatline customer service number to dispute the charge. The chatline plays back a recording of the husband ordering the service. The wife is devastated not only because the husband called a chatline, but because he lied about not having called. The wife never trusts the husband the same way again.

If you don’t want this to be you, you have two options:

1. Dont call a chatline if you are married.

Yes. This is obvious. So many men call dating chatlines without imagining the consequences. Imagine how upset your wife would be if she’d find out you’ve been chatting with other women. If you really love your wife, try to abstain yourself from calling.

2. Make sure you hide your number from your phone bill.

You can prevent calls to a chatline from appearing on your statement by adding a second line to your smartphone using an app such as Google Voice or Burner. Call the chatlines exclusively from your second line.

The world is skewed. Life is not fair. Yes, most of us already know and accept that. But there’s something that a majority of people ( particularly men ) still struggle to come to terms with; why phone chatlines allow women to talk for free. If anything, a few months ago a dissatisfied client of a popular single’s chatline took to social media to air out his frustration over something he termed as ‘unjustified biassed tendency’ of the modern day dating platform. ( Sic ).

But dear single, engaged, divorced and married men, here is something you need to understand.

While there is no denying that the mere notion that some people ( women ) use for free what you ( man ) cough a premium for is irksome, there are several good and logical reasons for this. For starters, how would you feel if you picked up your phone one boring and cheerless evening and called a party line with the hope of chatting up some equally lonely female only to find out ( to your utter disappointment ) that no one was available to talk to you? And that’s just the tip of the iceberg here, really.

Since time immemorial, women and the female species at large have always had the upper hand when it comes to male-female sexual relationships. Yes, men might rule over expansive kingdoms and empires but will still worship at the altar of queens if at all there hope to perpetuate their generation. It’s simple; the woman holds the final card when it comes to deciding whether any relations ( be they physical, emotional or social ) between the two parties happen. Ever heard of the phrase that no man ever ‘friendzones’ a female willingly?

And come to think of it, that’s why most services or avenues that are hellbent towards bringing men and women together will often favour the fairer sex. Remember those frat parties back in college? Where the girls would be allowed in free of charge, and you ( the guy ) would be required to come in with ‘incentives’ such a bottle of rum or hard vodka or a roll of weed or packets of cigarettes? How about your favourite Friday joint that allows a barrage of free drinks to the ladies, while you ( the man ) has to fork out some serious cash to enjoy the same? We dare not forget the notorious dance clubs at the corner of our favourite streets which always has a striking neon-lit sign saying, ‘Ladies Free Before Midnight.’

All the above are just some of the few scenarios that demonstrate the immense power women wield over the success or failure of social girl-boy settings. And men being men, know how to take advantage of this in the best ways possible. If you want guys to turn up ( and pay to attend ), anything socially-oriented just get as many ladies as possible to that event. The tickets will be sold out even before you spell ‘debauchery’.

But this begs the question, how comes this indirect favoritism works so well especially in today’s modern settings?

The answer – whether you agree to this or not – we all to some extent subscribe to the legendary caveman mentality or instinct if you wish.

Truth be told, even if statistics shows that there are currently more women than men on the planet, any sensible man knows that the number of quality females on the same planet is just but a fraction of the number of able guys. Competition is real, fellas. And that’s why you’ll often find many men will line up to impress a few quality ( beautiful/hot/sensual/educated/smart etc. ) women. It’s a survival instinct deeply ingrained in our DNAs. No wants to leave behind ‘low-quality offspring’ for descendants. We all aspire the best, and sadly, the best is limited.

Far from that, another explanation for this would be the fact that generally, men find it harder to initiate sexual or social relationships with the opposite sex than females. Any man who has ever tried ( and failed ) to unsuccessfully woo a girl can easily attest to this. So we will gladly pay for any promising prospect of sex without asking any questions. After all, we already know that it doesn’t come easy! So like bars and social parties, men frequent dating chat lines mainly with the intention of improving their chances of getting laid.

In contrast, women have it easy all the way. So it’s highly unlikely for a woman to pay to talk to men through a chatline phone service while she’s otherwise always inebriated and showered with attention wherever she turns to. Get the drift?

Calling a chatline can be entertaining and effective when it comes to meeting people; however dating chatlines pose a great risk for kids and teenagers who can be easily manipulated and who don’t yet realize the dangers of meeting with a stranger in person.

One of the first thing you hear when you call a chatline is something like this: “This service is for callers 18 years of age and older. If you are under 18, you must hang up now“. Yes, chatline companies make it very clear that the service is for adult only, and that they assume no responsibility for anything that happens on the line. However, due to the nature of the service, there is no way chatlines can enforce this rule and teens often call mindlessly disregard this warning.

You should not assume your kids will not call a chatline just because they don’t own a credit card. Most phone chat companies allow females to call for free. Males are no exempt from danger, chatlines will often offer a free trial of 30 to 60 minutes; enough time for a teenager boy to agree to a meeting with a potential pedophile or sex offender.

Two girls disappeared from their home while on a sleepover. They willingly left with two guys they met in a phone chatline.

The dangers of chatlines exist for both makes and females, however females are a a greater risk. Chatlines can also be dangerous for adults. Just because you are over 18, doesn’t mean you are. No matter your are, always be cautious and exercise good judgement when calling a chatline. Click here to read the phone dating safety tips.

A chat line is a phone-based matching service; you will be paired with a random person and be able to have a conversation where you get to know them. Chat lines operates through what is called an IVR system (interactive voice response system), so there are no paid operators. You simply talk to the host system and use your phone’s keypad or voice recognition in order to navigate service. You will normally have to pay a small fee (per minute in most cases) in order to speak with random people.

Dating

This type of phone chat is very common to online dating, except that it happens over the phone. Many chat line users are looking to find someone interesting and someone they connect with. You get to speak with another person and decide if they intrigue you enough to continue the conversation; you can hang up anytime and your phone number will remain anonymous. This gives you the opportunity to quickly speak with another person and try again. Compared to online dating, where everything happens over a screen, chatlines are perhaps even more intimate – you can hear the person’s voice and get to know them on a more personal level.

Friendships and Mutual Interests

Chatlines can also be used to find friends, or to simply talk to others about the topics that interest you. All in all, getting to know a new person is fun, and chatlines allow you to do this effortlessly, randomly pairing you with people in your area or in other parts of your country so that you can find a like-minded person and enjoy a conversation.

Personalization

Commonly, callers will record their name and a personal greeting in order to give potential callers an idea of who they are and what they are looking for. These greetings can be flirty or friendly, and are a great way to get people to slightly know who you are before they decide to call you. It is the equivalent of an online dating profile, though maybe not as detailed.

Preferences

Most phone chat lines give you the option of talking to someone nearby so that you can easily meet them in person! However, you can easily chat with people who are further away. It is all based on your own personal preferences and the service is designed to help you find someone you will get along with, whether it is strictly for conversation or for something more romantic. It’s completely up to you!

Amazingly, many chat lines are geared towards certain demographics of people – LGBTQ, black, Asian, Christian, Muslim, etc. You can easily find people who share similar values and beliefs as you, giving you more to talk about and a better chance at forming a connection.

Other Features

Some chat lines even offer a way to communicate with offline users – leaving a message in their mailbox so they will know who wanted to reach them. This is a great feature and will allow you to stay in touch with the people you connect most with.

Types of Chatlines

Different chatlines cater to different demographics. Apart from the mainstream dating chatlines, some of the most popular types of chatlines include black dating chatlines, gay chatlines, christian chatlines and naughty chatlines.

What a Chatline is Not

Despite what some believe, chat lines are not the same as an “adult hot line” where you speak to a someone who is working as a professional phone sex operator. Many people make the mistake of calling into a chat line, expecting to talk dirty. Chat lines are solely for speaking with a random, unpaid person. Many phone chat lines will have rules about what you can and cannot say on the service.

Chat lines are also not designed to give people advice. If you are looking for advice, therapy, or are having an urgent crisis, a chat line is not the right place to go and it would be much more beneficial to contact a crisis hot line or suicide hot line. There are no paid operators working on chat lines, meaning you will not be able to receive the help that you need.

Chat lines are an effortless way to meet new people and broaden your horizons. Talk about things that interest you, make friends nearby, and develop romantic relationships. Chat lines are geared towards communication towards two random people and is an easy way to enjoy hours of conversation, regardless of who you are.

If you are a guy still pretending to be straight, make sure you call hide your phone number when calling those party lines. LOL. You can check out all the gay chatlines here.

What are you doing of your Friday nights? Bros before hoes, right? Not to be confused with a gay chatline, Bromancing the Phone is the chatline just for bros.

Created by comedy sketch group ASAP has the answer, Bromancing the Phone is a fake chatline for bros to connect on the phone. Simply call 1 (800) COOL-BRO and you’ll be connected to all of the bros in your area.

For more party line sketches check out The Gangster Party Line, The Jesus Chatline and this funny Peter Griffin cameo on a TV commercial for a late night naughty chatline.

“Meet Local Gangstas Who Want To Talk Shit All Night Long” is the motto of the Gangster Party Line, a video parody making fun of late-night urban chatlines in the United States.

Launched in 2005, the comedic project quickly went viral. Major entertainment websites including CollegeHumor and LiveLeak picked up and featured the parody. Since then, this hilarious mock-ad has been shared millions of times and it has even been dubbed into other languages.

The accompanying website, GangsterPartyLine.com allows visitor to listen to actual recordings from real callers.

The Gansta Party Line was created by Adam Schary. The TV commercial parody was written and directed by stand up comedian Brent Weinbach.

The Jesus Chatline was another party line parody which gained significant popularity in social media channels.

Update: Also check out Bromancing the Phone, the chatline exclusively for bros.

As much as chatlines are seen by a majority as an avenue for finding that ‘special’ someone, there are many unseen and alternative uses attached to them. Some of them include:

1. To Practice Your Communication Skills

Chatlines provide a safe and secure avenue for someone who’s otherwise shy or socially anxious to polish up her interpersonal interaction skills. Something that can actually get in the way of landing a mate or simply acing that interview to that coveted job that requires excellent oratory skills.

Speaking of which, if you look at it keenly, ( particularly for guys ) dating lines can be a valuable platform to horn your ‘hunting’ skills. And this is something I have learned from both observation and experience. The idea of talking to a complete stranger and keeping the conversation fire burning even if it’s for just a couple of minutes is an invaluable gift of garb especially in a day and age dominated by instant messaging apps.

Ask any woman today who has ever tried meeting guys via chat rooms, and they will gladly tell you of their disappointed when the reality falls short of meeting their expectations. I’m not talking about the perceived physical attributes ( most women can be accommodating as long as you’re decent enough) but about the oratory deficiency. As it so happens, the charming and funny guy who wins your heart in the chatroom can barely hold a lively conversation for more than a few seconds in person, when you two finally decide to meet for coffee.

And this doesn’t have only to be in the context of love or romantic relationships. Even in purely platonic settings, you still need a way with your words if you want to spice up life around you at all. Human beings are generally social creatures; the crown always goes to the man or woman who expresses themselves in a fluent, candid and charming manner. What’s a better way of polishing up your oratory skills than by hitting up a few strangers and engaging them in a friendly conversation?

2. To Get Unbiased Advice from Non-Subjective People

Have you ever reached a point in your life where you feel you could use a nugget of wisdom from a impartial individual. Leave alone your office or marriage counselor who probably even knows the nitty gritty of your personal life. No, I’m talking about a total stranger who doesn’t know anything about you – not even how you look like. From experience, such people typically make the best advisers/confidants when it comes to dishing out meaningful jewels of wisdom.

Again, in such a controlled environment, you’re the one to choose how much you want to reveal as opposed to what happens when you go a friend/co-worker for advice. In the latter case, ( as it so naturally occurs ), the friend in question will, first of all, analyse your past life, then use it as a benchmark to advise you. Some will even go to the extent of misadvising you for personal gain or just to see you fail. Mostly, this is rarely any helpful nor insightful.

On the other hand, an anonymous person rarely has anything to gain ( or lose ) when giving out his own unique opinion or advice. And such a different point of view might be just what you need to see things from another angle.

3. To Make New Friends (Both Male and Female)

Do you know why modern ‘girl-boy relationships’ have become such a bore? It’s because nowadays people approach new friendships with the opposite sex with the narrow-mindedness of either hoping to have them for themselves or, at least, sleep with them. This kind of premeditated expectations/assumption is the greatest cause of social anxiety in many settings today. If the current trends are anything to go by, most men today can’t speak confidently to a pretty girl ( without fumbling aimlessly ) because half of the time they are wondering if she like them enough. The result is the current generation of smartphone addicts who only communicate via texts messages.

Fortunately, however, the good ‘ol chatlines remain the only avenue where you can interact with other men and women without being viewed through the lens of a having hidden sexual intentions. If anything, some people have become lifelong besties with people of the opposite sex just via chatline services. Never mind the fact that sometimes these people never get around to meet in real-life – heck, at times, they are virtually continents apart. But the notion that you have an anonymous best friend to call regardless of what is happening around you is just priceless.

4. As A Therapeutic Platform to Vent Out For When Life Gives You Lemons

The best thing about talking to a complete stranger ( about your problems ) is that they rarely judge you or your situation by jumping to conclusions. It is also the reason people hire therapists to help them dissect their love and professional lives despite having tens of friends and family members around them.

It’s only natural to want to vent out when life throws you a curve ball you can’t handle, and a chatline agency can be your best option especially when other aspects of your life are already crumbling away. So instead of burdening the people around you with new baggage, why not start afresh with a new circle of ‘personal therapists’ with whom you can share and analyze the woes of our sordid modern life?

5. To Conduct Anonymous Market Research

Anonymity can be a blessing in disguise, especially when you’re trying to get people to open about the private details of their lives. In fact, research shows that people are five times likely to be honest with a complete stranger than with someone they’ve known for some time. Therefore, if you’re trying to conduct research of some sort, or just gauge people’s opinion/sentiments, then a chatline service can prove to be a gem. The mere assurance that you’re not going to disclose the personal identity of the person you interview can be a motivating factor in getting them to open up about even the most personal aspects of their lives.

Remember that you can always enjoy the benefits of using phone chatlines by claiming an entirely free trial. Give it a try.

Can you think about any other alternative uses for chatline? Lets talk about it in the comments below.