Talking to strangers about sex takes a bit of bravado. It is exciting for the caller sure, but contrary to the shared belief, it can be exciting for the operator as well. Sharing your fantasies with a complete stranger – even if they are make-believe and pay your bills – is a weird but ultimately exciting endeavor. A lot of these people wind up doing that job because they genuinely enjoy fulfilling other people’s sexual fantasies. This is not a one-way street, or at least not always.

But what do we, the customers really know about these people at the other end of the line? Do we even want to know them or would that ruin the fantasy? Do we wonder about what do they look like? Do we wonder if they want the same things out of life as us? Is it even fair from us, wanting to give them a face to go with the voice we love so much? Would they appreciate this or hide behind their mask? Philip Toledano might have wondered about these same questions when he decided to photograph phone sex operators within the comfort of their homes.

This is a rare opportunity to see them in their comfort zones, the people who usually prefer to hide this part of their life. The photographer’s images offer us a glimpse into the world of these wonderfully unique people. Yes, they are women and men who talk dirty for a living (well, at least some of them make a living out of it), but that doesn’t mean they are not caring, emotional human beings. In fact, there is something humane about trying to recreate the fantasies of someone whom they probably never met in their life, and probably never, never will. I mean, who does this?

The fact that we ask these questions about them instead of us, their callers, may not be the fairest thing in the world, but the truth is that those who have the power to fulfill fantasies are always more interesting. We are drawn to these people at every level and phase of our lives. It is a power of a kind, one that most of us want to exploit in one way or another. Yes, we are not interested in the callers, we are them. Me, you, your neighbor, most certainly your boss! If you think about it, we all do this… We may not all call the professionals to pay for a service to achieve it, but we do wish to share our most intimate fantasies with others, especially those whom we’d like to fulfill them with.

They are normal people… for the most part

By looking over the pictures the first thing you can notice is that these people likely come from very different backgrounds. The stepping stone is sometimes working as a customer service operator and having an arguably sexy voice, other times it’s a result of seeking inner strength. A desire to feel attractive and wanted at the age of 60, or just the will to provide a professional service catering to the customer’s needs without wanting to fulfill any desire!

Well, other than the obvious monetary one. And it does seem to work — no — we know it works. Toledano’s approach is as subtle as it is revealing. The home environment creates a level of trust that’s so important to any photographer who seeks intimacy, “realness”, and these photos are as real as they come. There is no trickery here, there are no smokes and mirrors. The artist is able to catch the simplicity behind those lives. If these pictures did one thing, it was showing us how these people are remarkably similar to us. They probably have the same dreams and desires in life, they just chose a different approach to how they plan to achieve them. There is no right or wrong here, just a very accurate and raw visual representation of the human beings behind those phones… Seeing them in this way makes us all realize that we are not that different, regardless of the choices we’ve made in comparison with them. They may represent the opposite side of it, but they are the same coin nonetheless.

The complete phone sex series was published in book format by Twin Palms Press in 2009 and is available for purchase on Amazon. To lean more about Mr Toledano’s work, visit the project’s website.

In a bizarre turn of events, a Florida lawyer has been disbarred as a result of a number of misconduct accusations, including repeat drug use and having phone sex with inmates.

The Florida Bar announced in a statement Friday that Linda Dawn Hadad, a 43-year old lawyer from Daytona Beach, FL has been disbarred after engaging in a series of illegal acts while in the execution of her duties as a public defender.

Volusia County Corrections

The Florida Bar announced Friday that Daytona Beach public defender Linda Dawn Hadad had been disbarred.

According to the NY Daily News, the attorney, who had been practicing in the state of Florida for more than a decade now, is said to have fallen apart as a result of abuse of various illegal drugs. She has previously used Xanax, cocaine and crack, all without the express permission of a licensed practitioner. In addition to that, police documents indicate that Hadad has had a less than admirable rap sheet over the last 6 years, having been arrested no less than five times within that period for infractions ranging from driving while intoxicated to driving with a suspended license. Most of the time, Hadad had gotten off the hook rather easily, which might have encouraged overindulgence.

It has been confirmed that Hadad showcased a number of questionable habits. In one instance, she moved her practice to a new location without giving notice to her clients, who had a difficult time tracking her down. She also failed to attend to client cases for at least 5 documented instances. Her habit of drug misuse is said to have eaten into her normal schedules so much that she was no longer in control of what she did and where she was supposed to be, hence the inconsistencies in executing her duties.

Over the course of her engagement as a public defendant, Linda Hadad also had sex with at least two inmates at the Volusia County Jail. This happened so frequently and for such a long time that the warden had a hard time dealing with it and had to reduce her range of access to the facility, making sure that she could never go past the attorney-allocated perimeter. It however seems that Hadad had the perfect solution for this, instead opting for having phone sex with her clients, which was a lot safer given that she did not have to face prison authorities or even drive out to said jail.

Authoritative sources indicate that Hadad can apply for readmission after 5 years.

There is a common misconception that it is not possible to find love on a dating chatline. Although it is true that chatlines attract a lot of people who are just trying to hook up, there are many success stories of people who end up finding long term relationships using phone dating services. Just ask Kelly Smith from Arlington Texas, who found her one-and-only on a chat line. After speaking with her for only a minute, she will tell you just how possible it is to find that one-in-a-million person that you have been looking for.

Back in the year 2000, Kelly signed up for Livelinks — popular dating chatline in the US and Canada — hoping to find someone who could make her laugh the way she desperately needed; she had been going through a rough patch in her life as a very close friend of hers had been diagnosed with terminal disease.

She decided to message her soon-to-be true love, Stan Girnas, after listening to his recorded greeting message: “I’m not looking for Barbie, because I’m no Ken. But I’m not Chris Farley either” — Stan’s recording played. Kelly thought it was witty and lacked the cheesy-ness that most other male greetings where characterized by.

The two exchanged voice messages back and forth until July, when they actually managed to get to talk with one another live on the phone. “Stan joked that we should just get married so we can actually meet” — Kelly recalls. Stan was eager to meet Kelly in person, and he wasted no time inviting her out on a date. They met for drinks and dinner. They stayed there for hours, just talking and getting to know one another. Kelly says that they hardly had to think at all before they opened their mouths to speak, “it just came naturally” — she said, “like we had known each other forever”.

When Kelly dropped her entire life because her friend Tim was dying and she needed to be by his bedside, Stan could not for the life of him figure out why she was not answering his calls. She got his messages hoping one of these times he would leave his number, as she didn’t have it with her. Stan was in a bad way when this happened, he thought maybe the seventeen year age difference was playing a factor in her not seemingly wanting to talk to him. When Kelly finally did get back home, she explained that it was not anything that he was or had done.

During Valentines Day 2001, Stan invited Kelly out for drinks to Dallas hotel. When it came time to leave, Stan drew her attention to a limo his friend was driving. When they got into the car, there was a teddy bear, a dozen roses and some candies. Kelly thought that this must be for someone else, thinking that Stan’s friend must have another customer en route. Stan told Kelly that it was in fact for them, and of course, seeing as how they had just officially met in July, Kelly was not expecting what followed next. Stan pulled out an engagement ring and popped the question. Kelly couldn’t believe what she was seeing, needless to say, she was totally shocked. But she obviously wasn’t too opposed as she said yes!

The couple got married in August 2002 in the very same spot where Stan had first told Kelly that he loved her.

When Kelly talks about Stan, her eyes light up. “He was a rock in the ocean of chaos and despair, I felt like he was someone I could really count on and that was impressive.” She cant help it, “Gosh I really love this man, we finish each others sentences”

The story of Kelly and Stan finding each other on a chat line and falling so deeply in love show that it really is possible to find love on the phone. No matter what other people believe, not everybody who signs up for a chatline is on there looking for phone sex. Take Kelly for example, she went on Livelinks hoping to find a person who could make her laugh when she needed to most, instead she found something so very much more than that, she found love!

Family Guy’s Peter Griffin stars in this hilarious naughty late night party line tv commercial parody. Check it out:

Hey, Are You Lonely? Do you like to party with hot girls? What about horsing around with fat guys? Well, what are you waiting for? Give us a call! I’ll be on the toilet wearing a t-shirt that is so long that I’ll have to hold it under my chin while I wipe!

Check out these funniest chatline TV commercials. Other chat line parodies include the Gangster Party Line and the Jesus Chatline.

There are a few advantages to using a dating chatline in a world where everyone seems to be extremely shallow. Meeting people on party lines gives you a glimpse of their personality, and most services offer a free trial so you can join at your own convenience.

Making Friends (and More) on a Chatline

When done correctly, you can meet new friends, find a quick fling or even find that special someone. You can also maximize your chances of catching someone’s attention by creating a very interesting profile for others to browse. The first thing you need to do is record an alluring introduction so people want to stop and listen. You should remember to actually greet the other people on the line with a “hello” or “hey, ladies,”. You should also come up with a creative name for yourself, because people are more likely to reply to a cute pet name than they are to ‘Jim’ or ‘Karen’. A nickname also helps you to be discreet as you sift through the many profiles. Just like you wouldn’t want to disclose your address to everyone, you should also keep your real name to yourself.

Put Your Best Voice Forward

A lot of people make the mistake of trying to sound too sexy when they record their initial greetings. It’s best to just speak in your regular voice so people aren’t surprised if you actually get to chat live with them. It can be difficult to keep up the enhanced tone when you hold a prolonged conversation. Remember to speak clearly and use a lively, friendly tone. You should also remember to either state the date or mention a recent current event that will give the others an idea of when the message was recorded. You should be honest about exactly what it is you’re looking for. If you’re only interested in friends with benefits, you should be discreet about it. However, you must choose your words wisely if you’re not looking for a relationship. “I’m looking for someone with whom I can spend some alone time.” lets listeners know that you’re looking to be alone with them. This message establishes that you’re not looking for marriage, and you’re not looking for a chat buddy. It also increases the chances that your message will reach the ears of like minded people. Those interested in a long-term relationship can bypass the message instead of you wasting each others’ time. Your greeting is the most important part of your profile so you’ll want to spend some time preparing it.

Practice Makes a Perfect Greeting

It’s important to remember that the other members of the line can’t see you. Therefore, the ideal greeting will describe your physical appearance. You can give details such as your hair and eye color, your height, weight and race. You can also give a vague description of yourself such as “I’m athletically built,” or “I’m curvy in all the right places.” It’s best to mention your age or at least mention the age group in which you’re interested in meeting. It’s alright to give a general idea about your location (such as your side of town) but never mention your street address. You should actually write down the greeting and rehearse it until it’s perfect. It’s alright to have a friend critique your greeting before you record it, but make sure the words reflect how you’re really feeling.

You should also keep your message short enough to keep people interested. Keep them wanting more and they’ll be more likely to reply to your greeting. Most chatlines have a time limit on greetings, but you rarely want to take up more than 45 seconds. If you do, you’re probably disclosing too much information or you’re repeating yourself. Remember not to mention your job or anything else negative in your message. People are calling the line looking for a good time, and they don’t want to bother with someone negative. You should keep your vibe light, and remember the theme of the line you’re calling. If you’re calling an urban chatline like Vibeline, you might want to play some soft R&B music in the background. If you’re calling a more adult oriented chatline like RedHot, then you should make your message a bit more risqué. Just utilize common sense, and your greeting is sure to catch people’s attention.

Think Twice Before Spending

Almost all dating chatlines have the option of purchasing credits or more talk time. However, it’s important to utilize the free trial to make sure the service is right for you. If you’re not getting a warm welcome from the existing users, then you should consider calling a different line. You should only purchase a subscription when you have lots of unheard messages or you’ve chatted with someone worthwhile. Remember that these sites are quite common, and you always have the option of searching somewhere else. Remember that the chatline also serves as a virtual community, and it shouldn’t take long to find out how well you get along with the others.

Respect the Wishes of Others

There will be other people on the line who have described exactly what it is they’re looking for. If a member says he or she wants to meet someone 23 years of age or younger, you should respect that. Some people may prefer to date a particular race or even someone with blond hair and blue eyes. Some women will only want to talk to men who are at least 6’1″. Some men may only ant to talk to women that are bi-curious. There’s no need to waste your time messaging someone who has requested 6 pack abs of you know you have a keg.

Exercise Caution on Meet and Greets

The first time you meet with someone from a chatline, you should met in a well lit area with lots of people. A mall is a great place to meet someone for the first time as is a restaurant. It might be better to exchange phone numbers with the person first so that you can send each other picture messages. There’s no need to go meet someone to whom you’re not attracted if you can avoid it. Refer to our phone dating safety guidelines and always use common sense.

It has been said that the human mind is indeed the most erogenous of all the organs. Perhaps this is why people spend millions of dollars on phone sex annually. Some people’s brains are more turned on by an erotic conversation than the sight of two strangers having sex on a computer screen. Phone sex isn’t limited to straight people, though many of the operators are only pretending to be gay. In a recent interview with Cracked Magazine, a straight father of three disclosed just how extensive the business of gay phone sex has become.

Understanding the Business of Gay Chat

Many people might think it’s relatively easy to work as a gay phone sex operator, but these people are mistaken. There’s actually a complicated hiring process involved, and only a select few are chosen for the job. According to the anonymous father, he actually applied to an add that was seeking aspiring actors and actresses. He says he was given a script of sexually overt phrases to say, and the company only hired those who could say the phrases without giggling or chuckling. Saying something like “I want to eat your big banana” would be a challenge for most straight men, but the father managed.

Training to Become a Gay Phone Sex Operator

The training is far more extensive than most people realize. It requires more than just randomly talking about sex to be a phone sex operator because they must create a fantasy with their voices. The father says he was taught to get into character which can be challenging for a straight man. These men are also taught how to make sounds that will appeal to homosexual men such as the sound a mouth and throat will make during oral sex. He didn’t go into detail bout the length of the training, but he did emphasize the elements that were involved. Apparently, the training also consisted of extensive sexual harassment and safety seminars.

It should come as no surprise that the operators are told to keep their personal information strictly confidential. Stalkers and homophobes frequent these types of lines and they may try to contact the operators in person. Some callers become fixated upon the person who so vividly fulfilled their fantasies over the phone. The father mentioned how people would try to gather as much personal information as possible about the operators. The supervisors would constantly remind the operators to keep their information to themselves, although this is probably done to prevent liability suits.

Women Occasionally Call These Gay Phone Sex Lines

Another male phone sex operator reveals that he would occasionally receive calls from straight women. Apparently this does happen, and men who are straight appreciate these callers for a few reasons. When men call a phone sex line to chat, they’re usually looking for sexual gratification. Once this has been achieved, they rush to end the call to avoid additional charges. However, female callers tend to stay on the line for repeated gratification, so the operator can earn more from a single phone call. The man says he had a caller stay on the line for 45 minutes, less than 20 of which was spent discussing sex. However, the majority of callers are men, and operators have to keep the sexual tensions high without infringing upon government regulations.

Forbidden Sexual Chat

One straight man said he was surprised to learn about the strict regulations imposed by the Federal Communications Commission (FCC). Apparently, terms like “blowjob” were completely out of the question. Instead, he could use the term ‘tongue bath’. The operators must also be creative when inquiring about a caller’s anatomy. Terms like “how tall are you laying down” are acceptable but not ‘how big is your penis’. These regulations apply only to the operators who are being paid to provide the service. Apparently, anything goes for the callers who regularly use terms like “man pussy”. This same individual also mentions how the experience changed his view of sexuality.

Gaining an Open Mind

The straight father admitted to getting an ego boost from audibly pleasuring other men. He says the experience made him more heteroflexible, though he wouldn’t call himself bisexual. He says he would get caught up in the roles he was playing, and he definitely sees homosexuality differently now. He no longer holds the position anymore, but his experience proves that gay chat isn’t strictly reserved for gay men.

https://www.queerty.com/straight-man-spills-all-the-details-about-being-a-gay-phone-sex-operator-20160425

http://www.cracked.com/personal-experiences-2194-6-realities-being-gay-phone-sex-operator-and-straight.html

Seven Things I Learned as a Male Phone Sex Operator

After Sarah and I broke up, I went through what you might call a “bored patch”. I had a sizable apartment in San Diego, where I had staked out a fairly successful career and life was pretty good, but having just ended a long-term relationship, I couldn’t help feel a little restless.

It was the night of August 21st, 2015 and I couldn’t sleep. After tossing and turning for what felt like hours, I finally gave in and flipped on the TV. In between Family Guy segments, I saw a commercial I had seen hundreds of times on late night television. “Sexy singles in your area are looking to chat”. On the screen, good looking 20-somethings gave me flirtatious looks, beckoning me to dial that number, in golden script on the bottom of the screen.

The Beginning

I don’t know why I called the sex chat service that night. Maybe it was the boredom or the insomnia, but looking back, probably a little bit of both.

I didn’t expect my conversation with Joanna to go so well, but it felt like we had chemistry from the second she answered. We talked for hours before I even realized it, but the next thing I knew, we were scheduling a date for the next night.

I picked her up at her La Jolla apartment and took her to a fancy restaurant downtown. Joanna told me about her childhood, her family and asked me about mine. We sat at the restaurant until closing, and it seemed like we had told each other everything. When we were asked to leave, she told me she wanted to come with me back to my apartment.

I don’t need to go into detail, but in the cab I could tell that Joanna wanted me, and I wanted her as well. It didn’t take long when we got in the front door before we were in bed. I couldn’t believe that this person I’d met on a chatline was so wild, and that we were completely in-sync.

But after that night, Joanna became distant. She stopped returning my calls and texts, and I only saw her two more times before she cut off contact entirely. I told myself that our connection was all in my head, that I had just imagined it, and eventually, I moved on.

The Symptoms

I thought it was the flu, which is why I tried to ride it out. I was a busy man, with no time to see a doctor for some basic flu-like symptoms. It went on for days until weeks were turning into multiple months and I wasn’t getting better. When I say flu-like symptoms, I mean the common cold. You know, runny nose, frequent fevers and general soreness, among other common symptoms. Slowly and surely, I started to get better.

It was only recently that I had more symptoms, which an online symptom checker suggested was pneumonia. I decided that going to the doctor was the best option, since pneumonia is a bit more serious than a simple cold. My doctor agreed that that was what is most likely was, but he wanted to run more tests.

The tests revealed something that I wasn’t afraid of, because I didn’t even know to be afraid of it. My immune system was weakened, and my white blood cell count was critically low. My doctor couldn’t even look me in the eye. I had HIV.

The Aftermath

As it turns out, flu-like symptoms are the first sign that you’ve contracted HIV/AIDS, and what they call “opportunistic infections”, like pneumonia, are common once the virus has preyed on your immune system.

I’ve become weak and unable to handle the daily physical tasks that life requires. I take regular naps and have been so tired on some days that I can no longer work regularly. I took some time off, and quit altogether when it became too much to take. I now spend regular time in the hospital, with sores and serious infections that my weakened immune defenses are powerless against.

The hardest part was telling my family. They looked at me with a mix of pity and shame, the same types of looks I get from people on the streets that realize what I suffer from.

Amidst all this, I’ve tried to remain hopeful and take a lesson away: hooking up with strangers can be fun, but as I learned the hard way, extremely dangerous sometimes. Always use protection, even if you’re feeling pressured. It only takes one mistake to change your entire life.

I don’t blame anyone but myself. Joanna likely doesn’t know that she’s infected and I don’t have her contact information anymore to tell her. I don’t blame the chatline, it’s only an avenue to make the mistake that will undoubtedly shorten my life.

I made the choice… I have to live with the results, forever.

After months of chasing, begging and even bribing him, we finally got a chatline moderator to sit with us and answer some of our most burning questions. He agreed to our meeting as long as we promised we wouldn’t reveal his real identity nor the chatline he works for. For the purpose of this interview, let’s call him Jerry. Here is the transcript of our meeting:

If you have any additional questions for Jerry, leave them in the comments below and we will ask him to answer.

Phone sex is supposed to be about having fun and getting intimate with your partner even when the two of you aren’t in the same room. This hilarious video from the Open Door features a hot young Brazilian couple who try to spice things up and get in the mood with a little fantasy and some dirty talk. But things don’t exactly go according to plan, as the man makes some very questionable fashion choices, and his partner can’t quite get over them and get in the mood.

Things start heating up pretty quickly in this Portuguese phone chat video, when the hot Brazilian woman calls up her boyfriend, Marcello, and asks if he wants to play a little. Marcello is quite excited by the idea, they can’t quite seem to get past taking off his clothes. Ankle socks and pajamas aren’t exactly her idea of a sexy outfit, so he comes up with a few more ridiculous ideas, including his favorite soccer jersey, and striped pants and a plaid shirt, with a pair of crocs. She almost gives up, ” It’s not even a matter that it’s not sexy Marcello, it’s a matter that plaid doesn’t go well with stripes”. So he tries again, telling her he’s in his underwear. Beige, which doesn’t exactly turn her on, either.

They get past that only for him to complain that it’s too cold when he takes off her pants. But he’s brought a friend, Corporal Lacerda, who wears a cape! Fed up, Marcello’s sweetheart announces that she has brought her own friend, Joan Rivers, who is there to give him some fashion tips. Despite the fact that his lovely lady has left the conversation, Marcello is undeterred, and continues to try to have phone sex with Joan Rivers taking the place of his paramour, all while giving him fashion advice. The timing and verbal wordplay in this Portuguese phone chat video make it well worth watching!