Needless to say, phone sex isn’t what it used to be. In “The Origins of Phone Sex”, a video parody produced by KYS Realm for The Elements Club, we can see how two classic British characters, namely, Lord Sebastian Longberry (Richard Halverson) and Lord Edward Gelson (Matt Musgrove) try to implement what it seems newly invented pick-up-artist techniques with female telephone operators. Yep, the multi-million dollar phone sex services didn’t exist back then so it took more than a few dollars to start a hot conversation with an “accommodating lady”.

Lord Longberry, the self-proclaimed “Master” of phone line seduction gives us a few tips on how to hook up with a telephone operator. First, don’t be boring. Second, don’t give up. And third, make sure that you actually want to have phone sex in case you actually succeed at your endeavor. If your manners and “core values” are against it you will end up sabotaging the whole move!

Check it out below and let us know your reaction on the comments below:

Blacklisted and then lost for more than 80 years, this silent film depicts a young couple having naughty phone sex during the prohibition era was recently discovered.

Back then, having phone sex was considered an act of indecency by the federal government, a crime which was punishable with up to $50,000 in 1932 dollar fines. The 4-minute short was supposedly banned by President Herbert Hoover in 1932 and haven’t been released until now.

The young couple in the video is trying to spice up their sex life and keep it intimate despite the fact that they are not quite so close physically. The guy doesn’t know exactly what to do, because like many young men of the era, he is a little inexperienced it the art of of seduction.

Like many young men he turns to trusty, reliable internet porn for inspiration. Unfortunately for the guy in the video, the Internet of 1932 was not as reliable in as it is today. His video starts to buffer because he loses his internet connection. Hilarity ensues as he tries to keep his lady satisfied and fix his internet connection problems at the same time. This historic phone sex silent film parody is a hilarious reminder that times haven’t changed all that much.

Phone sex can and should be like real sex, amazing. Sex comes easy to men and women, at least most men and women. Okay, maybe not all of us are ready to star in the next celebrity sex-tape, but so what. The point is, most people understand what good sex is and how to have it. While phone sex may require a bit more wit and charm than the average session, the rewards to pleasing a woman as she sits on the other side of the Atlantic ocean can be greater than you ever anticipated.

The only thing that could stand between you and a hot hour-long ‘date’ on the phone is you. Don’t waste much time over thinking or putting preparation into something like getting off on the phone, it is a waste of time and will not satisfy anyone, not even yourself. The idea is simple; phone sex should be as spontaneous and heated as any live sexual encounter.

Reasons for getting intimate over the phone vary, whether it is to release some steam on your favorite hotline, to keep things hot between you and your long distance sweetheart or to initiate things with the part-time stripper you met last Tuesday night. There is one piece of information that all men can benefit from and that is the fact that the person on the other end of the line is a woman. This alone tells you just about everything you need to know. So here it goes, the complete guide to initiating, performing and wrapping up a successful evening love call like a certified stud.

Plant thoughts – Remember that old saying, “Men fall in love with their eyes and women fall in love with their ears”? This is nonsense if you take the word love in this context seriously, substitute it with the word lust instead and you have some valuable information, especially for phone sex.

Phone sex should be seen as an opportunity to take advantage of the power words hold over women. Understanding this truth will give you all the confidence you need to not only say the right things, but to say them in the right way, with confidence.

Avoid pushing a structure or agenda such as “We’re going to have phone sex now, baby”, or “Those clothes better be off by the time I get home for our evening call”. Although anticipation can often work in your favor, it is better to build that up with indirect language that plants the idea in her head without saying it explicitly. Drop hints by admitting over text how hot you’ve been for her since last seeing her, saying “I’ve been having some issues at work with you on my mind, good issues” and “I think we need to do something about these issues a bit sooner than distance would allow”. It should be playful and not too serious, but straightforward enough to let her know that there is more than the standard how are you that needs to get done over the phone.

Initiate Intimacy

Never forget the crucial detail about not actually being there physically. This means that if you expect to go straight from “hello, how are you?” to “Let’s fuck” with success, don’t be surprised to either be laughed, hung up on, or hear your favorite pornhub video in the background after she chooses the only option left for the rest of her night.

Remember the importance of intimacy. According to an article by Psychology Today, “women seek and place a premium on a sense of intimacy and emotional closeness with their sexual partners”, so no matter how well you know her you should say things that make her feel like you’re right there with her. This doesn’t mean that you need to make her fall in love and get to know you over the phone, rather, it is about knowing how to use the fact that intimacy will turn her on. Yes, the point is to turn her on. This means asking questions that show a sincere interest in how she is. Hopefully you don’t need any examples of what to say to show this.

Leading Questions

After enough chit chat that is normal for any date, move on to more suggestive things. Chances are that you need no help getting turned on, so channel your libido into a more seductive voice. Keep it simple in the beginning with, “What are you wearing” or “Are you in bed wearing that?”. These are harmless yet suggestive questions that she won’t feel too much pressure from. However, women have the gift of intuition, so she’ll know you’re not interested in what store she got the lingerie from.

Likely, the response will be one of two things like:

1. She answers with a smile, “Hmmmm, I’m in bed now, I’m wearing pajama bottoms and a shirt”
2. She plays with you, almost teasing you and pretending not to understand, saying “Well, why would you want to know that?”

Either answer puts you in a position to then say, “I’m imagining what that looks like on you”. She’ll hear you smiling through the phone and she will get more turned on. Usually by now she is excited enough to ask you to prove to her just how good your imagination is by saying, “Oh yeah, well then tell me how I look”.

Now is when you really heat up the session by describing her features and asking, “Where exactly are your hands?”. Remember to firmly hold your ground no matter how sassy her response may be. No matter what she says respond with “I want to tell you how to use them”. Once she tells you where her hands are, her mind is now officially in sex mode and it is time for you to take control fully.

Women will often try to tease a guy when he moves forward with phone sex, don’t let this intimidate you. Tease her back, but do it briefly. Control the conversation and work to keep the attention focused on her in a sexual way. Try something “I’m going to need to you stop that and listen to me closely”. She will love the dominance.

Remember, humor is good. But too much when things are supposed to be getting steamy can spoil the mood, so be careful.

Taking control

The term alpha male may seem overused today, but there is simply no escaping the truth that women love these traits, especially during sex. Unfortunately there is little room for a firm spanking during phone sex, however, you are free to try it and let us all know how it goes in the comment section. According to Jeff Wise, a psychologist with Psychology Today, “testosterone, the hormone of aggression and dominance” is one of the more important parts of demonstrating alpha male traits. Achieve this through an authoritative tone of voice and word choice. For example, when she tells you where her hands are, say something like “Move your finger tips closer to your inner thigh” and follow up with, “Don’t move them without telling me”. Now you begin to establish a tone of dominance over her and the session itself.

The idea is to maintain this control and continue escalating what you say as she starts moaning your name, breathing uncontrollably and of course, doing the work herself. Tell her to rub her clit the way you would if you were there.

Never apologize for what you say during phone sex, it is a turn off and women can sense insecurity over the phone. At this point you should be enjoying yourself so much that second-guessing is nearly impossible anyways.

Compliment

We are not looking for “You are the most beautiful thing i’ve ever seen”, save that for when you can actually see her.

To keep the tempo you established going as she has an incredible time playing with herself, say some things like:

• “I can’t even handle the sound of you moaning right now”
• “I can see how hot you look fingering yourself”
• “That is the sexiest voice I’ve ever heard”

This helps her feel more free from judgment and other worries. Doing this in person is usally far easier, as physical contact can relieve tension. With phone sex, you can achieve the same thing by saying things that make her feel desired and admired.

Expose her naughtier side

One of the perks to having good phone sex is that there is more motivation to make things interesting by pushing boundaries you may not have considered in person. Take advantage of how comfortable and horny she has become and have her tell you just how much she is loving the idea of having real sex with you.

• “Would you like it more if I was there doing it for you?”
• “I want to know just how much you want me to fuck you”.
• “How bad do you want me inside you right now?”

Good phone sex can reap huge benefits whether you have been dating and having sex with a woman for years, or if you have never actually had sex with her yet. When she admits to you what she really wants, she knows the truth about her feelings for you just as much as you do now. For early stagers, you have crossed a threshold where the romance is almost guaranteed to carry over in-person. For the long term relationship, this means more happy times together.

The Finish Line

After openly expressing a desire to be physically intimate with you, there is little room for things to go wrong. But cumming loudly before she has a chance is a little embarrassing, and no one deserves to get left behind, so slow down.

Sometimes you will be lucky enough for her to tell you that she is coming, and in that case just say or do all the things you normally would when climaxing during sex.

Other times, women need more stimulation before they are ready to finish. They love to hear you express a desire to finish with them, so say exactly what you want, “I want to come when you do”.

Other times, women may not be able to finish, and this is normal. She enjoyed it atleast half as much as you did, so relax.

Saying Goodbye

Be sure to continue treating the session like real sex in every way. Hopefully, this means staying around afterwards to talk. Sometimes there may not be much to say, but it doesn’t matter. Talking for just a few minutes can achieve the level of comfort needed to move forward naturally.

If you are in a long-distance relationship, congratulations, you just helped make both of your lives less miserable. If you just met this woman, congratulations to you too, there may be some more good things to come.

Islam is one of the most conservative religions, and most of its rules emphasize on the importance of sexual sanctity and abstinence before marriage. Phone sex is essentially sending sexually explicit messages including nude photos or having sexually charged conversations. In some cases phone sex involves masturbation. Calling a phone sex line is considered an act of fahisha or indecency.

Phone Sex Between Unmarried Muslims

Islam clearly prohibits sex before marriage; in fact having sexual thoughts about any other person other than your legally married partner is against Islamic rules. The Quran is crystal clear on remaining sexually chaste until marriage this means abstaining from any sexual acts, illicit conversations, thoughts or even sexual innuendo. However, phone sex is not as great as sin compared to actually having sexual intercourse which is referred to as zina or unlawful sexual relations between Muslims who are not married to one another. Even couples who have courted for extended periods of time and are engaged to each other but not legally married are not allowed to practice phone sex according to Islam. Muslims are taught right from childhood that sex is for procreation and is reserved for marriage, and there is no way around this rule, not even phone sex. Therefore, any Muslim couple that is engaging in any form of phone sex despite being betrothed is going against religious expectations.

The Quran recommends that Muslims should spend most of their leisure time praying to Allah and seeking righteousness. Therefore, although phone sex is allowed, it is not encouraged because men and women are advised against excessive lustful admiration that causes sexual excitement. Furthermore, Islam advises that its followers restrain from engaging in flirtatious talk and tempting situations that can lead to the need to engage in phone sex. Essentially phone sex is considered zina of the ears while cyber sex is zina of ears and eyes. Muslims are taught that allowing their eyes and ears to be tempted into committing phone sex outside marriage is allowing man’s mortal enemy (shaitaan) to win.

Phone Sex in Married Couples

The Islamic religion allows a married couple to have phone sex as long as it does not extend to masturbation. Polygamy is allowed in Islam; a man can marry up to four wives. A married Muslim is permitted by religion to have phone sex with all his four wives. However, some Muslim scholars argue that is if a man is in dire need of sex and the sexual urge can cause them to stray and commit adultery then they are allowed to masturbate while having phone sex.

There are rules that guide married couple on having phone sex without going against religious regulations. According to this rules; it is wrong to call your husband or wife with the aim of arousing them to the point masturbation or orgasm. Islam is skeptical about the subject of masturbation but allows a married couple to engage in mutual masturbation. According to religious guidelines for masturbation between a married couple to be considered right it has to happen when the couple is in the same room and uses each other’s sexual organs to arouse each other. This is known as mutual masturbation.

The Quran says “Those who will guard their chastity except from their wives or that their right hand possesses, they are free from blame. But whoever seeks beyond that is a transgressor” (islamqa.info). This implies that masturbation is wrong and evokes Allah’s wrath. The objective of having phone sex should be to create intimacy between a married couple and express love and not to arouse masturbation. Having sexual thoughts about married partners is allowed in Islam therefore fantasizing is allowed. If sexually fantasizing about a married partner without touching causes an orgasm then this is not wrong. The bottom line is Islam considers phone sex a necessary evil in marriage that not only wastes time but also wastes money. If a married couple can stay clear of it then the better.

How Islam Religion Perceives Phone Dating Chatlines?

Islam religion advises men and women to refrain from sexual lust by openly looking at each other. Additionally, it also recommends that Muslims avoid situations that can create sexual temptation and lead to cheating in marriage or sex before marriage. According to this conservative religion, dating is prohibited and the only virtuous relationship between a man and a woman is marriage. It is a sin haram to have a boyfriend or girlfriend. There is no clear guideline on whether Muslim men or women can engage on phone dating chatlines. Based on the Quran and other sacred Islamic texts, there are no particular religious laws that prohibit or prevent a man or woman from talking over the phone. With that said, although there is no rule that prevents conversing on phone, dating is wrong according to Islam. It is a given that people who choose to use phone dating chatlines have the intention of dating. However, there is no clear indication or explanation as to when actual dating starts.

The Quran advises Muslims to refrain from exposing their eyes and ears to sexually tempting situations. Some scholars argue that when persons of the opposite sex converse over a chatline, they are intentionally exposing themselves to temptation that could result in phone sex and in extreme cases lead to masturbation. Both masturbation and phone sex are considered indecency (fahesha). Scholars with this line of thought recommend that Muslims should avoid phone dating chatlines.

On the other hand, other Muslim scholars argue that there is no law that prevents men and women from having an innocent conversation over the phone. This is as long as both callers have the conviction of true Allah-fearing Muslims. This line of thought trusts that those engaging in phone chatlines are self-controlled and can restrain themselves from being sexually explicit.

Gloria Leonard is one of the most underrated personalities in history. Every time you’ve had a casual phone chat you owe credit to her because she invented the platform. Gloria was a feminist, a champion of the freedom of expression, a Matriarch among her peers, a mother and friend before her death in 2014. She died after suffering from a stroke.

While working on Wall Street, she must have never imagined that she would one day make the history books. After her stint on Wall Street she had a highly successful career in film and also got into publishing in High Society Magazine, a men’s magazine. She was the first woman publisher to get that job.

Gloria would handle several tasks at High Society, sometimes simultaneously. She was the definition of hard work and passion. As the publisher, she would supervise layouts, copywriter content and even go on the road and engage the company’s wholesalers. The company had about 500 wholesalers. After speaking to the wholesalers, she went on to the retailers, company principals and even truck drivers. On top of all that, she did four to seven media interviews sometimes on a daily basis.

Gloria Leonard coined an idea- maybe if she recorded her own voice informing fans of the next magazine issue’s content, this would create anticipation as well as boost sales. It was genius.

Later on she got cover models to make their own recordings for callers, but these were sexier and raunchier pieces of voice content. This ended up being successful and is what led to the popularity of phone sex services in the modern age.

1977 wasn’t a time when concepts such as phone sex were celebrated. In fact, the government went as far as to declare it a crime to use a telephone for any “obscene communication”. This caused an outrage among various groups which led to the US Supreme Court revoking the law.

One of the groups against this law was the Free Speech Coalition. Gloria Leonard was an active member and even became its President in 1998. She used the platform to educate more people about free speech as well as feminism.

She would hold weekly meetings at her residence in New York with other like-minded women which later became referred to as Club 90. Here she would advise her peers not to be afraid of expressing their views, voicing their desires publicly, etc.

Leonard spoke about censorship and its impact on women at several universities and colleges. She would speak strongly about how she never wanted to stand in a man’s shadow. Leonard wanted to exert her own dominance and would say that a woman is perfectly okay being a breadwinner and a man a househusband if it fits the situation. Of course, in 1977, not everyone had the same line of thought.

Leonard is survived by her daughter and granddaughter. Together they try to make sure this woman’s legacy is not forgotten. If Gloria had hesitated and not done something that was considered a taboo back in the day, you and I wouldn’t enjoy the pleasure of a sexual phone chat. It must have been her simple idea that has led to the growth of dating sites, phone date providers, chat lines, etc. The amazing Gloria Leonard was a feminist, a free thinker, an advocate of free speech and a key contributor to the phone sex industry. Long live Leonard.

While I was gathering materials for a piece I am working on about the history of phone sex and the name Gloria Leonard came up. Eureka! We share the same last name! That’s where I must be getting my enthusiasm for the phone chat industry. We must be related! — I though to myself. Eventually I found out that Gloria Leonard was actually born ‘Gale Sandra Klinetsky’; Gloria Leonard was her stage name. Still, I think it is a pretty cool coincidence that I share my last name with one of the most important figures on the phone chat industry. This piece is written in her honor.

According to the National Institute of Mental Health, social phobia — also known as social anxiety — is the third most prevalent mental disorder in the world. Social anxiety is reported to affect up to 18% of the population, and almost 13% of the population will experience social anxiety at some point in their lives. People with the social anxiety disorder have a severe fear of being judged, humiliated and feel inadequate in social situations. There are ways people can deal with anxiety disorders, enabling them to lead a normal life. The use of phone chat lines when combined with cognitive behavior therapy has shown to be timely and effective on a variety of social anxiety cases.

Social anxiety is not a sign of weakness. Moreover, it is a heightened sense of awareness of your thoughts and behaviors in social settings. Once you begin to learn this, it becomes easy to start changing these negative and prohibiting thoughts and behaviors and start accepting yourself for who you are by learning to live as the interesting, confident, and fun person you are.

Psychologists are encouraging the use of chat lines in the treatment of social anxiety as a way of helping people learn and practice social skills. Though many will argue that chat lines have fallen out of favor over the past decade mostly due to misuse and bad media press, it is an excellent way to improve social skills — according to Carol Wasserman, a psychologist based in Miami, FL. “People can develop friendships that help them gain confidence in their ability to overcome anxiety” – said Cora.

The use of chat lines as an extension to traditional exposure therapy techniques focuses on confronting the fears underlying an anxiety disorder to help people engage in activities they are avoiding. For those that have problems going out to social gatherings and holding a conversation, the phone chat services can offer better access that is more convenient and less spontaneous. “The client can gradually encounter the object or situation that is feared, perhaps at first only through leaving voice messages, having live chats, then later meeting up with the person face-to-face” — explained Dr Wasserman.

Some therapists are coaching their clients on the use of chat lines even while they are in the office, so they can help them relax and succeed in their social interactions. The therapists teach relaxation techniques, such as progressive muscle relaxation or deep breathing to help reduce physical anxiety response such as trembling and hyperventilation. The best way to reduce your anxiety towards social situations is to gradually confront them. It can be a daunting task at first, given the anxiety levels will often rise when you do so. However, research shows that if the patient can stay in a situation that makes him feel anxious for a long enough time, their anxiety will gradually reduce. More importantly, if he subsequently confronts a similar situation again, the level of anxiety is likely to be less and less on each occasion. Not only this, but it is likely to pass more quickly each time too, until the point that the situation causes the client little or no anxiety.

Daniel Davidson — one of Dr. Wasserman’s patients —  had been struggling with social phobia and depression since he was a  teenage boy. He described acute panic and would become overly conscious of himself and his behavior in social interactions like attending birthdays or places where there’d be lots of people, talking to his peers, giving presentations, going to a grocery store, walking along the street, talking on the phone, and even sending emails. Dr. Wasserman asked him to call a chat line every day for about 20 minutes. Obviously, it wasn’t an easy process as Daniel was training himself to do the opposite of what he would usually do in situations which caused him fear. However, with feedback from his therapist and some advanced relaxation techniques, he was able to improve his conversation skills up to a point where he could talk with a stranger about sensitive topics for hours at a time. By exposing himself to fearful situations, his whole mindset and approach to social anxiety changed. He was able to overcome his fears and realized that he had much more inner strength than he realized.

According to Mark Pfeffer, director of the Panic and Anxiety Center in Chicago, IL, exposure therapy is a challenging task that causes people to feel things they have worked hard to avoid. Because of this, it is important to participate in treatment to the fullest extent and follow the prescription of a well-trained therapist. Picking up a phone and talking to a stranger on any of the chatline services like Livelinks or Questchat presents you with a chance of facing your fears while remaining anonymous, safe and talking with your choice of chat mate. Exposure to chat lines as part of the social phobia treatment process is an area that needs to be given more attention.

What do you love about Bernie Sanders? Is it his cool composure, his style or his progressive ideas? Well there’s something else you might like; what about a Bernie Sanders: male sex phone operator?

If you haven’t listened to this Dirty Bernie phone sex hot line parody then you are missing out. There is nothing that captures the Bernie phone sex operator like this. It is not only his charming voice but also the erotic vocabulary that will captivate you. Well this guy seems to mix socialism even in his intimate affairs. There is nothing like an outwardly social sex phone operator with such progressive ideas!

The Dirty Bernie sound cloud series consists of 5 episodes, now going viral around social media. The episodes are all build around the ideological Bernie going dirty. The first episode of the Dirty Bernie really captures Bernie’s ideologies. The Senator offers to eat Ritz Crackers and rub the crumbs all over the lady’s body. Well as we all know that is something she can do on her own.

As the audio goes on it gets even dirtier. The Senator maintains a sexy voice like that of a man about to have orgasm. You can feel the intimacy but most importantly the fun. Through his comments, Dirty Bernie makes you realize that politics can actually be implemented in bed. As if addressing a public rally, the senator tells a female caller that his campaigns do not take money from big banks but he would be happy to take money from big wanks.

Well if you are going to listen to the audio you better be warned. Listening to Dirty Bernie’s sex chat sessions is really funny but definitely not safe for work. Take care not to laugh out loud and consider using your headphones.

According to The Stranger, the audio really portrays how you can never spell out socialism without a little jism. The Bernie Sander you meet here is dirty but still very considerate. His ideas are sexy while at the same the contradicting. There is no way you can be a strong social figure while at the same time so dirty, but the “Dirty Bernie” does a great job. Whether you love Bernie or not you must listen to this.

People who are unsure about the use of chatlines should know that most of them offer free trials to those who are interested in the concept but not enough to sign up in exchange for a fee. By taking advantage of such opportunities, they can collect firsthand experience for the purpose of figuring out whether a chatline is right for them or not, which is the best method that can be found.

First and foremost, it is important to note that different chatlines offer different free trials based on their different circumstances as well as their different expectations about their caller uses. For example, most chatlines offer free trials that last between 5 – 60 minutes, though a smaller number have been known to offer free trials that last up to a week because that is the length that they believe will provide them with the best results. Furthermore, different free trials can come with different features. Sometimes, chatlines will offer interested individuals access to all of their features for a complete taste of what they can offer. Other times, chatlines will insert advertisements, restrict access to desirable features, and even prioritize callers who have signed up in exchange for a fee over callers who are on their free trials. By doing so, they can reduce the costs of running their revenue-earning operations while also creating incentives for their callers to sign up to their services.

Unsurprisingly, chatlines offer free trials to interested individuals because it keeps their revenue-earning operations running in a smooth and uninterrupted manner. In part, this is because studies have shown that about two percent of their callers will start paying to use their services, meaning that they need free trials as a way of creating new revenue streams. However, it is also important to note that having more callers calling in ensures that there will always be someone for them to talk to, which is absolutely critical for the success of a chatline. For what it is worth, this is the same reason that most chatlines will let women chat for free. They know that men will be more willing to call in if they believe that there is a significant number of women using a particular chatline, meaning that they need a significant number of female callers if they want to bring in a significant number of male callers as well.

having more callers calling in ensures that there will always be someone for them to talk to

Of course, just as how chatlines use free trials to their advantage, interested individuals are using them to their advantage. Unfortunately, some of those interested in chatlines cross lines that should not be crossed, though it is worth mentioning that chatlines have ways of dealing with such problems. For example, a great number of people use dating chatlines as a way of soliciting phone sex, which can be combated by requiring moderator approval for recorded messages as well as providing callers with the options to call in moderators and block unwanted callers as needed. In contrast, other problems such as the use of borrowed phones as well as the use of software to spoof phone numbers in order to get additional free trials are not so simple to solve, though most chatlines do their best to mitigate the consequences for the innocent with measures such as wiping their free trial databases on a regular basis to accommodate people with recycled phone numbers as well as people who had their phone numbers used by someone else.

Summed up, free trials are an integral part of every chatline marketing strategy, serving as one of their best sources of paying callers as well as a useful tool for maintaining the necessary number of callers when their revenue-earning operations are running. They have become so because they are genuinely useful for people thinking about making use of chatlines, even if some of the interested individuals go too far by abusing the opportunities offered to them.

A recent study on dating chatline users behavior shed new light on how these phone chat services are being used. One of the most interesting revelations was that while dating chatlines are still being used to find dates, most men and women surveyed cited phone sex as their main reason for using such services. This is a serious problem for dating chatlines, not least because such services were meant to facilitate love rather than phone sex.

With that said, this is a serious but not unexpected problem by dating chatlines. For proof, consider how dating chatlines are set up. First, the caller is prompted to record their name as well as a short statement about what they are looking for, which makes it possible for like-minded people to find them. Then, one of the moderators for the dating chatline will listen to the recording for inappropriate language before either letting the caller into live chat or refusing them. Once in live chat, the caller can listen to the recordings of other callers, leave messages for those that catch their interest, and even chat live with those who are calling in at the time.

There are a number of ways that phone sex can start up in a dating chatline.

Sometimes, high call volume can result in an overwhelming number of recordings for a limited number of moderators to review, thus increasing the chances of someone somewhere approving something that should not have been approved, which can be seen as a go-ahead by callers interested in that sort of thing. This is particularly common because some callers like to take advantage of the free 30 to 60 minute trial period provided by most dating chatlines again and again by calling from different numbers.

Other times, a caller’s recording is not a good indication of their actual interest in the service, meaning that moderation for the recordings do nothing to weed them out. As a result, said individuals will have to be caught while in the course of soliciting phone sex from other callers, which is particularly problematic because this is reliant on other callers reporting the issue to the moderators. After all, callers can be reluctant to report this sort of thing, perhaps because they are interested in the same thing, they are not aware it is against the rules, or they do not want to feel like they are escalating beyond reason. Whatever their reasoning, this is a serious problem because the sheer number of calls makes it impossible for a dating chatline to monitor all of them for problematic callers without cooperation from other callers.

With that said, it is important to note that these problems can be combated by improving the implementation of the existing system rather than replacing the existing system with something new. For example, a bigger team of moderators can empower dating chatlines to deal with more callers, particularly if they receive the right training before being thrust into the fray. Similarly, pre-recorded messages can help remind callers what is and what is not permitted when calling a dating chatline, which can deter those interested in phone sex as well as encouraging those who are reluctant to call in a moderator to do so when someone else is making them uncomfortable.

In the end, dating chatlines remain a viable method for finding romance. However, with them as with other services of a similar nature, interested individuals might have to spend some time finding one that is right for them before they can really get started on finding what they were looking for.

We are so used to it most of us don’t even think about it anymore — we automatically associate the word “dial” with the act of pressing sequences of numbers on our phones with the intent to place a call. But what is the meaning of this word and where does it come from?

Believe it or not, we inherited the word from the early stages of telephony, when telephone company subscribers had to “dial” a sequence of numbers on a rotary phone — a device which vanished so long ago, most teens nowadays don’t even recognize.

The steps required to place a call using a rotary phone where as follow:

1. Insert finger into the finger hole of the rotary dial corresponding to the first number you wish to call.
2. Rotate the phone dial clockwise until your finger reaches the finger stop.
3. Pull your finger out of the hole and wait for dial to return to resting position.
4. Insert finger into finger hole corresponding to next number you wish to call and go back to step 2.

The antiquated procedure required interacting with a round dial, thus people of that era came up with a new verb “to dial,” to describe the process — it just seemed appropriate.

Today we no longer have to rotate a dial to place calls but we still use the word to describe the pressing of number sequences on the touchscreen of our smartphones or the buttons of our digital handsets with the purpose of initiating a phone call.  Next time you are dialing your friend, your colleague or your favorite chatline number remember how long telephony has come since the days of pulse dialing.