The Dos and Don’ts of Flirting Online
Long gone are the days when people warn against digital stranger danger. Today, when you ask couples how they met, it’s more likely than not they’ll say online. In fact, in 2019, 39% of couples said they met online, so that number’s bound to be much higher nowadays!
So if you’ve been unlucky in love, then perhaps online dating can turn everything around. After all, your dating pool will be much bigger, which increases the possibility of finding Mr. or Mrs. Right.
Flirting online can be tough to do though. Sometimes, it can feel like there are unspoken rules you need to follow. And if you don’t know them, you might blow your chances with someone amazing.
Read on for a quick guide to the dos and don’ts of digital flirting.
Do Use Their Name
You want to be as personal as possible to make a genuine connection. An easy and great way to do this is to use the person’s name!
When speaking to people online, it’s easy to feel like you’re an anonymous entity. But when you address someone by name, it can make them feel like they’re not just in a sea of faceless people. In fact, it can cause an instant spark in some cases!
Don’t Use the Same Lines on Everyone
Perhaps you had good results with a pickup line, so if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it, right?
However, people can tell if things seem rehearsed, and that’s a quick turn-off. Instead, start off with a “hello” and see how the conversation goes from there. You’ll find that you’ll have more responses than if you rapid-fired a pickup line to multiple people at once.
Do Ask Questions
No one likes it when the other person goes on and on about themselves. This just makes them seem conceited.
Make an effort to ask people questions, such as what are their hobbies, favorite foods, etc. Not only will you learn more about a potential mate, but you’ll also start some interesting conversations. Plus, they’ll feel flattered that you want to get to know them, so that’ll be additional points in your favor.
If you don’t know what to ask, browse some first-date questions to get started. From there, you can craft your own custom questions that’ll keep you talking for hours.
Do Compliment Them
If you like something about the other person, then go ahead and compliment them on it. Be sure you don’t come off creepy though, as they’ll probably ghost you right away.
Stick with things that are more innocent and genuine, such as how you admire how athletic they are. It’s better to focus on non-physical things so they know you want to make a real connection with them.
Don’t Go Overboard With Compliments Though
There’s such a thing as giving too many compliments, so don’t hand them out every minute. You might actually mean your compliments, but when you keep doling them out, it can come off as insincere.
Instead, save up your compliments and give them out sparingly, at ideal times (such as when a relevant subject comes up). This can flatter the person of interest and keep them feeling good whenever they talk to you.
Don’t Be Pushy
It can be hard to tell whether or not someone’s into you, especially through online text. But if they seem to be reacting negatively or coldly, don’t push things.
It’s good to initiate conversations since it shows the person you like them. But if they give you minimal answers, don’t keep bombarding them with messages.
Instead, leave the ball in their court. If they don’t talk to you again, then count it as a loss and move on to other prospects. Otherwise, they’ll contact you again if they want to take things further.
Do Be Clear About What You Want
Sometimes, all people want is some online flirting. Other times, they want to hook up, or maybe even casually date or get into a relationship.
You’ll want to be clear about what you want, as well as what the other person wants too. It’s best to establish this in the beginning so you don’t offend one another. For instance, if you’re looking for a relationship and the other person just wants to flirt, then it’s not a good idea to say you want to marry them.
Don’t Send Unsolicited Naked Photos
Online flirting can lead to some saucy pictures, but it’s only sexy if both parties consent. You should never send naked or suggestive photos unless the other person asks for them. Sending these images without asking first is a quick way to get blocked and deleted.
Don’t Try to Be Someone You’re Not
One of the most important things about flirting (whether it’s online or in person) is to be yourself. If there’s anything you should remember, it’s this.
Don’t make things up to impress someone, as that’ll backfire in the end. For example, if you say you’re adventurous and someone invites you to go skydiving, they’ll be disappointed when you refuse not only that date, but other heart-racing ones.
When you present yourself authentically, it’ll be easier to flirt too. Not only will you be more confident, but the conversation will flow better too.
Good Luck With Flirting Online
Now you have the basics of flirting online. Of course, there are many other subtleties you should watch out for, but with experience, you’ll know what to expect and how to handle each situation.
Admittedly, chatting online can be difficult. But you’ll never know what’s out there unless you give it a try. With our advice, you’ll find your footing, and before you know it, you’ll be a flirting pro!
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